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Anal Delights
Dr. Ava Cadell
Anal sex should never be a surprise, so gentlemen please don't sneak up on her from behind. First and foremost, discuss the subject before you actually do it. If anal sex is new territory for you, I'd like to share some important guidelines.
To encourage and help her relax, introduce her to the Liberator Scoop, a shape with curves that will contour to her body. With the Scoop, you'll be able to make anal love in missionary or rear entry positions. It will be able to support and stabilize any thrusting motions because of its natural rocking ability, and you can even flip it over for more stability.
Once your beloved is in a comfortable receptive position, take your time and lead up to anal love by massaging her body so that she will be completely relaxed before anal penetration occurs.
Gently, caress the cheeks of her buttocks, squeezing them together, and then spreading them apart. Slowly, make your way to that power packed bud of anal nerves and massage around the area paying attention to her body language. If she likes it, her rectal muscles will relax and she'll push herself into your finger. If she's uncomfortable, her muscles will become tense and she'll try to back away. Ask her for verbal feedback by saying, "How does that feel?"
The anus and the surrounding area are full of thousands of nerve endings making it a primary erogenous zone for some people. Before you insert your finger, cover it with a finger cot (which you can buy at any local pharmacy) to protect her from any jagged fingernails and cover the cot with plenty of lubricant.
The anus does not produce lubrication like the vagina, so it's essential for ease and comfort. Be gentle, even with your finger, because you can damage delicate skin tissue. Once she is fully aroused and gives you permission to proceed with anal intercourse, put on an FDA approved condom to protect yourself from bacteria in the rectum and then apply copious amounts of lubricant.
Move slowly and don't expect to insert the full length of the penis all at once. Also, be prepared to stop if she asks you to. The woman should always be in control of the speed and the depth of penetration.
Make sure she's comfortable on her Liberator and suggest changing positions for variety and ease. Discover and share which position feels most exciting for both of you. Some women prefer having anal sex in missionary because it's more intimate, while others love the feeling of surrender from behind, especially when penetration results in G-spot stimulation and orgasm. Encourage her to stimulate her clitoris while you're making anal love to her.
Approximately 40 percent of heterosexual couples have tried anal sex at least once, so obviously it's a highly erotic and gratifying experience, but it's also a high-risk activity for HIV and other STDs, so please use protection. Also, never insert anything from the anus into the vagina before washing it and that includes the penis, fingers or sex toys.
The physical and emotional power play of anal sex can be appealing to both men and women and it makes for a great alternative to vaginal intercourse. Having said that, never feel compelled to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable mentally or physically. Use common sense and pay special attention to your body so that you stay safe and sexy. Set sexual boundaries with your lover so that your relationship is based on mutual respect, trust, communication and love.
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