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Oral Sex for Women
Love your woman--and show it with oral sex! When we talk about oral sex, we often get so fixated on pleasing our male partners. How can we use our hands and mouth at the same time? What is the right speed? How much is enough pressure? This focus starts in adolescence, where young women are far more likely to give oral sex than to receive it. Well, its ladies night and we're turning the tables!
One of the reasons men give for being reluctant to pleasure their partners with the oral arts is nervousness--yes, men care too about doing a good job in the bedroom! So it's time for a little oral education. Let's begin with an anatomy lesson.
The vulva is the term given to the external female genitalia--including the clitoris, the labia majora and the labia minora. Now we hope you are familiar with the clitoris! It is a small cylinder, about 2 to 3 centimeters long, composed of erectile tissue similar to the penis. But, the clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire penis put together! This means it is very sensitive to stimulation! But a lot of men make the mistake of focusing just on the clitoris--oh no, there is so much more to explore! What most people don't know is that the clitoris has "legs" which descend down 2 or 3 inches down each side of the vulva, and these legs are composed of muscular tissue that is an erogenous zone in its own right. The labia majora are the outside, hair covered lips that protect entry to the vulva. The labia minora are the smaller, internal lips (but these may hang down below the labia majora or be tucked up inside). Both of these sets of lips become engorged with blood (like the penis does) when the woman is aroused and are also sensitive to touch.
Just incorporating these four very special anatomical structures into your oral sex routine can take your skills from the bland to the bodacious! First, get out your Liberator Shapes. It's important that your lady be comfortable, after all. Have her recline on the Ramp and rest her legs on your shoulders. If it is more comfortable for you, add the Wedge to the Ramp so you can rest your chin on something! You might find yourself in for a long night, given how much she'll appreciate your new technique and enthusiasm!
Start with gentle, soft licks on the outside of the vulva. Women take longer to build their arousal to the point of orgasm than men do, so take your time. Tantalize her! Rub her labia in with your fingers while flicking her clitoris with your tongue. Use your fingers in an upside down "V" to stimulate the "legs" of her clitoris. Rotate between these four magical body parts (of course you can venture up to kiss her or stimulate her breasts). You could spend hours doing this, and you haven't even ventured inside her yet!
But that lesson is for another day! Now get to your homework!
Dr. Robin Milhausen
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