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Anal Sex: An Introductory Course
Many men and women are intrigued by the idea of anal sex--it seems somehow naughty, forbidden... But done safely and correctly, anal sex can be a highly fulfilling and exciting sexual experience for both partners. Curious? Read on!
The nerve endings in the anus are extremely sensitive, and for men, anal sex comes with the added bonus of stimulating the prostate, an area that can only be reached from the inside. Many women find anal sex pleasurable because the walls between the rectum and the vagina are very thin (one reason to go forward with this activity gently and carefully!) and therefore she can experience vaginal and anal stimulation at the same time. She can experience a "triple treat" if her partner stimulates her clitoris and labia with his or her hand at the same time. Talk about a great date night!!!
Before you start, there are a few essential tools. One is lube. The anal cavity does not lubricate
itself! The muscle can be very tight and some form of lubricant is necessary to gain easy access. Use a silicon lube--it tends to be the slipperiest and last the longest. The second tool is a condom. Anal sex is the riskiest activity for transmission of HIV and other STDs, partially because the area is so susceptible to tearing (again--be gentle!).
Okay--moving on. There are three basic positions for anal sex, each of which can be facilitated with Liberator Shapes. The easiest for beginners is "spooning." For this you can use the Stage or Ramp. Curl up together with the "penetrator" behind the "penetrate-ee." This way the recipient can control the depth and speed of penetration. Very important for those just embarking on the anal sex journey.
The second position--for more advanced participators--is "doggie style." Bend your partner over the tall end of the Wedge, and they are at just the right angle for penetration. But communicate, communicate, communicate--make sure he or she is ready for your thrusts and is okay with the depth and pacing!
And if you don't feel quite experimental enough yet, try this one. Have your partner lie on the very edge of the Ramp, so his or her butt is almost hanging off of it. You can kneel between their legs, again, at the right height and angle for penetration. Have your partner hug his or her knees to her chest. They are likely to feel most vulnerable and exposed in this position--so go easy! But with a trusted partner, this position can be the most exciting and intense.
Now you know the basics--lube, condoms and Liberator!. Stay tuned for more info on how to hone your anal expertise!
Dr. Robin Milhausen
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